Friday, February 16, 2007

the aftermath of Vday and over-sentimentalism

Ok, i am sick, stuck at home, bored and angry. So don't expect anything even remotely nice in this post.

In fact, you may even wish to skip this altogether, or if you read it, discount it completely if you are a big fan of romantic love.

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Anyway, in light of Vday past, recent happenings and certain blog entries...I think the world is over sentimental and tries too hard for love.

Valentine's Day.
The only day in the year where men are willing to dish out a hundred bucks for a bunch of half wilted flowers, dress up and bring their dates to a fancy restaurant that serves pre-cooked/microwaved not so fancy food at exorbitant prices.

After all that effort and money, do people even know the origins of Vday ?

Not to burst your bubble, but Valentine's Day originally began as a holiday for a god who protected shepherds' flocks from the wolves outside Rome.

It's through sheer capitalist manipulation, plain stupidity and flock mentality that we spend hundreds of dollars on this day alone for sheep.

I don't know about you, but personally, i think it's only worth celebrating something if you know exactly what you're celebrating. Not just celebrate because everyone else is celebrating it.

Worse, some men buy their women flowers and brings them to dinner just because he has to, not because he wants to. That is so sad. I'd rather just skip the whole shebang altogether.

Least i don't have to put up with the game of charades.

Strangely, alot of women like charades and have come to expect a great deal from the men on this ridiculous day. I cannot understand it.

Why would you want to turn love into an obligation of flowers, chocolates and dinner?

Does it mean that if he does not spend a few hundred dollars on you that he loves you less? I think not. Sure, it proves that you mean something to him for him to part with that kind of money...but what does it say about you?

Ah well...I guess that's life.

We spend half the time wondering if we did something right and the other half of it trying to make something wrong work.

Of course im not condemning all romantic gestures on Vday...and yes, it's nice that people do make the effort to take some time off to celebrate love itself. But please, let it be for the right reasons...

Not some commercialized shit that marketeers want to you believe.
And not certainly because of social norms and obligations.

So what did I do for Vday this year? I bought jp a bottle of wine and he made (or at least tried to make) me black pepper steak and buttered shitake mushrooms. Unfortunately, I was too sick to eat much of his labour of love...took 5 bites of the steak, a handfull of mushrooms and went straight to sleep.

I really appreciated it though. Though maybe pizza next year would be a better plan.

Haha.

XxX,

audrey at 12:20

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