Sunday, December 26, 2004
Is it lust or love?
I've been wondering, do 2 people stay together because they truly love each other or because they have gotten used to each other (companionship)? Recent encounters have really made me question this.
I know of this couple who've been dating for a few years now and
appear to be, as they say,
hopelessly devoted to each other. Yet surprisingly, I found out that the guy is far from devoted (cuz he is shamelessly two-timing his gf) as compared to the girl (she hopes to get married). What is interesting is that while such contradictory views exist, the girl is none the wiser that her feelings may not be exactly 100% reciprocrated. I can't decide if she is merely ignoring the tell-tale signs of a souring relationship cuz she's too self-contained or is it because she just trusts him so much since their relationship has been quite long-standing.
Either way, it's bad.
Maybe guys, as they say, really do not associate emotions with sex. Which is really quite sad. Or more rightly. ..
animalistic. I am sorta arriving at the conclusion that guys can say and do anything just to get into a girl's pants. I'm starting to think that perhaps it'd be better to keep men on a leash. But really, that doesn't solve anything, does it? So don't worry, I haven't had a change of heart...yet. :D
Well, what if you feel 100% for this guy emotionally, but are turned on 100% by this other person? So..
which is worse? Cheating emotionally (you have feelings for someone but don't do anything) or cheating sexually (you just love his/her ass!)? Or are they both equally bad?
Hmm...
p/s: I do miss u Ru. :D Gotta keep our lunch engagement!!!
XxX,
audrey at 03:43
Monday, December 13, 2004
Buying a mountain and the case of my missing friend...
Yo!
I'm backkk! :D Today's blog will be broken into 2 parts. For easy reading, of course!
Part One
What can i say? Bangkok was great. Well...from a female's point of view anyway. Bags and shoes everywhere! Haha..as everyone should know...there's only one word that can sufficiently describe the place...
cheap. I sort of managed to live the kind of decadent life (albeit only for 5 days) that one only reads about in the gossip columns of hollywood trash. And may i say, it's great!
Transport there is ridiculously cheap. And you can ALWAYS count on getting a cab..unlike those in Singapore who refuse to stop for u even when they are not on call or have no passengers. Oh, and best of all, there's no midnight charge ( I positive hate midnight charge)
and there's no limit of how many passengers a cab can take (unlike the max of 4 per cab here in s'pore)..provided you guys can squeeze urselves in of course! hehe. And it's always service with a smile!
I love Thailand.
Basically, i did most of the tourisy things..visited the temples, checked out the ancient city (btw, that was where the movie "mortal combat" was filmed), sailed down Chao Phyra River, etc etc. Shall not bore you to death with the details. Anyhow, for those interested in going to BKK (read: to shop), here's a list of must dos:
1)
Chatuchak Market (aka Weekend market). Make sure u bring a
BIG bagpack with water. And wear comfortable shoes and airy clothes. It's like a giant pasar malam, only bigger and with cooler stuff.
2)
MBK shopping center is a great place for shoes and bags...only around $8-9 per pair. Same goes for the bags.
3)
Bonanza Plaza (a small shopping building) right next to MBK. It sells mainly the same shoes and bags as MBK but can sometimes get cheaper prices for the same things.
K, that's about it. Think u should be able to find most of the stuff (i am assuming that the stuff u seek is cheap) u seek at these 3 places. Overall, the quality of clothes are not that good..and the designs are also not that avant garde but hey, what's quality when u can get quantity? Oh, and be sure of wear loose fitting clothes when u are going out to buy clothes.
You change in a sarong. Period.
K, enough of my yada yada about my trip to BKK. Let's get down to talking about some more serious aka gossipy stuff.
Part Two
Well, recently i've been plagued by some bad vibes whenever I see my friend..let's call her
Blingbling. She's been together with this guy for about a year plus and for the last few months, has been positively
superglued together to her guy. For simplicity's sake, let's call Blingbling's guy,
Magnet.
Anyhow, miss bling is with mr magnet 24/7...it's like magnet literally sucked up all her social life. Now...don't get me wrong. Magnet isn't the typical possessive creep you read about all the time in magazines..in fact, i think he secretly yearns for some
freedom. I hazard that it's the other way round rather. Blingbling has a jealously problem and hence needs to keep her eyes fixed on her man all the time.
A fact that i find astonishing because why would anyone want to keep a guy they can't trust??? I mean, if you plan to marry him, for god's sake, trust him. If not, what kind of relationship is that anyway? Urgh. You'd never know for sure if the guy doesn't stray because he really loves you...or is it because you rule with an iron hand and deep in his heart, he's thinking of lots of other girls.
I can't decide if I'm disgusted because Blingbling managed to tie her man (an arrogant goodlooker, no less) down with seemingly little effort
or because she acts as if it's the most natural thing on earth to bind the hands and feet of your guy. I feel so inadequete whenever i see her...I think of Koh..and all i can do is shake my head and sigh. Haha. But i'm sure my better half enjoys his runs around the yard. Bhahaha.
There are no chains in my house.
But most intriguing of all is, Miss Bling and Magnet appear happy! Now...this defies
ALL logic and nature. Men, I've been told, cannot stand being tied down. They are the hunters and the wanderers...so just how Mr Magnet has been reduced to a little domestic puppy that is (or so he appears to me) happy to just run the distance of the leash astounds me. I just don't get it.
Now, Miss Bling would be most displeased with me should she ever set her eyes on this post. Which I hope she doesn't...unfortunately, its most likely she will..considering my past records. It's just that I think it's not right that a couple devote ALL their waking moments to spend with each other. I hate the fact that the name "magnet" punctuates every blooming sentence that comes out of her mouth. And the fact that she has to refer to HIS bloody schedule before she can tell me whether she can hang out with me. I hate playing second fiddle. Much less to my friend's bf. So pardon me if i sound harsh, but i totally rubs me the wrong way when I see someone lose their individuality and become a shadow of their partner. We don't need someone to complete us. We are already complete by ourselves.
Or maybe...part of my ire is that koh just refuses to listen to what i say...and i can't have that can i??? hehehe...;P
XxX,
audrey at 21:41
Friday, December 03, 2004
playing aunt agony and flying to thailand..tata! (...for now)
Hello... :D
Y'know, i'm always so pleasantly surprised when i receive an email telling me someone commented in my blog. So i guess i really need to say thanks for reading! ;) So..maybe my life isn't so boring afterall! 3 cheers!
Well..the last comment kinda struck a vein..basically, the big question was "
is a blog supposed to be read by anyone, everywhere?". What an interesting question...considering the fact that I've just not too long ago got myself out of a blogging misunderstanding (you can read abt it if u like. It's titled "
in my defense").
Well...what I feel is that if u dare write something, then expect that it may be read by all and sundry..
and be
criticized.
If you can't take the flak, then don't write nasty stuff. In fact, it'd be better that you
don't write anything. And besides, since nothing can really be deleted once u have saved it (it's true. I learnt that in class.), it'd really be prudent not to publish potentially damaging stuff.
Well, in your case...
my dear anonymous reader, I agree that your friend is just being childish. In fact, you friend seems to be a
control freak streak. At this point, I'd like to say that it's very likely that the gender of
your friend in question is female. Right? Being a girl myself, its more likely that the female sex pick on such nitty gritty detail. Such is the major failing of my sex. *melodramatic sigh*
I digress.
Anyway, why should she stop you from picking the brain of her nemesis?
Isn't it better to know what her enemy is thinking so she can better plot against her? Haha..or am i just speaking for myself? Well,
my philosophy is that it's always better to have more information than less. You never know it'd become useful.
In anycase, your friend has no right to restrict your actions. And even less to be angry. C'mon, what you do is your own business right? If u are seeing her, I say DUMP HER!!! Haha...control freaks are
not good bf/gf/marriage material. They just make u miserable in the long run. And if it's just a friend, well, you should tell him/her to just stick it. Trust me, I know better. I share a roof with a control freak and it sucks. Big time.
Anyhow, i'll be flying off to thailand tomo for some major shopping! Yippee. So, i'll catch up with u guys when im back. Take care now and cya!
XxX,
audrey at 13:37