Wednesday, October 25, 2006
Compatibility = hogwash?
Was just chatting with jp yday and were discussing if "compability" could be cited as a reason for a breakup.
He said citing incompatibility was just an excuse and was total hogwash. Basically, a person is incompatible with just about everyone else (which i agree actually) and whether or not a relationship works out depends largely on how willing both parties are able to compromise.
True. So then this means that both parties must be very aware of how much the other is compromising. This also means that the possibility of taking your SO for granted is quite high, since the likelihood of the relationship working out is largely dependent on compromise. By and large, this will happen to like 99% of the couples out there.
I then told him that it was easier to compromise some things than others and hence compatibility was key to finding a person who's bad habits u merely dislike rather than abhor.
There's a BIG difference between dislike and abhorrence u know. Dislike = annoyed but acceptable. Abhor = rage and hate.
So yea, while a couple who generally hate each others' bad habits could work out, it's by far easier if the couple merely disliked each others' bad habits.
Hence, i think incompatibility IS a valid reason for a breakup. I don't think it's for lack of effort in trying to make a relationship work.
Sometimes, a relationship gets to you so bad that you can't recognize yourself anymore.
And i think, that's the time to call it quits.
p/s: I am NOT having problems with my relationship. It was just a discussion! :P