Saturday, October 29, 2005

communication

Ever wonder how is it that some people don't seem to care whether there is anyone really listening to what they are saying...so long they get to say it?

Recently, I've been on the receiving end of quite a bunch of unsolicited and unwelcomed comments and information. Really, when you are the one doing all the listening...it can get pretty hard on you. It's difficult to not listen when you are supposed to listen. Because there is someone expending effort to make a point, there is an obligation to listen. And naturally, I'm too polite to totally ignore the person or outright tell him/her to shut the hell up. I'm just not so rude...even though you are tempted to physically tape their mouth shut

Haha...

Anyhow...this brings me to the question of whether there is a point to saying anything (or continue talking) if you know that the other party is just plain not interested in whatever you have to say.

Obviously, if you continue talking, the recipient is likely to do any of the following:

1. Tell you to shut up
2. Argue
3. Space out (mentally trying to block out the noise)
4. physically turn away

In any of the above, definitely, the recipient has stopped listening. So, if there's no one to listen...who am i talking to? And exactly, what is the point of saying anything at all then?

We speak because we want someone to listen to what we have to say. Yet, many people continue to talk even when there is nobody there to care. At this point, anything that comes out is just considered noise.

Just plain, lousy, irritating noise.

The exchange is only one-way..but amazingly, people tend to ignore and deny the signs that the other party has stopped listening.

So, if i ever make noise...just tell me ok? No point wasting saliver with no benefits.

XxX,

audrey at 02:19

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