Saturday, September 24, 2005

Love = Unconditional? *pui*

Watched this reality show called "wife swap" on ctv yday...and at the end of the show, one of wives on the show mentioned to her husband that she loved him "unconditionally" and that she would "support [him] in whatever decision he made" because she "trusted him". Even though he's a complete jackass and is totally destroying the lives of his 2 daughters in pursuit of his own selfish dream.

*Pui*

Have I ever heard anyone say anything stupider than this? No.

** Fyi, the stupid man point-blank refuses to work (fortunately, or maybe unfortunately, they live on dole in an inefficient welfare state) with the most banal and ridiculous reason that "this is simply not me" and only wants to travel around US in a bus. Oh btw, the entire family lives in a bus and is constantly on the move. **

Why am i so riled up? Well, first off, love is definitely conditional. If it were unconditional, we would just fall in love in everybody and anybody. So that part of the silly wife's claim is just plain wrong.

Second, even if you love someone, it doesn't mean that you have to give in to every freaking whim and fancy that person desires. Why be a wife when you can just be a doormat? At least the description is more accurate. I just find it so infuriating when i see such weak women who let their hearts so completely rule over their heads.

I'm not saying that we should always just do what we want and that compromising is a bad thing. No. All i am saying is that when someone steps all over you and treats you just like some lousy doormat, it is obvious that he/she has total disregard and zero respect for you and your feelings. So then, does he/she love you as a person with opinions, needs and desires...or you because you are a doormat? And honestly, what's the point of hanging around with such a loser who obviously cannot appreciate the preciousness of your sacrifice?

Lastly, the thing that I found most annoying was the part about "trust". In my opinion, trust has to be earned. And in this case, it is obvious that the man is delusional. I hate it when people say things like "I trusted you...and look what happened?". The signs are always there to tell you whether a person can be trusted. It's just a matter of whether you have been paying attention. You can't very well ignore all the signs that point to the fact that this person is irresponsible and then later point fingers. For example, if someone has a history of being late, i would never trust them to make it on time on their own. It just defies logic if you choose to "trust" the person to be punctual when 9 out of 10 he/she is late.

Ultimately, we have to take responsibility for our own lives and our own actions. So if you choose to trust someone instead of yourself to make decisions for you and get flak for it later, that's just too bad.





XxX,

audrey at 14:08

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