Monday, May 30, 2005

fidelity

Went drinking with my friends the other day at Dblo...and as always, played the usual 5-10. What was interesting was that the forfeit involved kissing...and to my surprise, i realised that most of my friends are a straight-laced bunch.

Most of my gfs (yeah, guys usually have no qualms abt it) felt that by doing the forfeit, they were somehow cheating on their bfs. And would really really feel bad about it.

Now, this is really quite interesting because this involves the idea of fidelity. Isn't it interesting that ppl seem to consider physical cheating far worse than emotional cheating? Why's that?

To me, this logic is flawed.

Firstly, everyone is basically the same. We all have similar attributes. I have what every other girl has...give and take some fats here and there. Haha. But my point is, ultimately, we are all the same. Change my face, give me bigger boobs, blah blah blah...but we are basically the same. So why get so hung up over some kisses?

What really differentiates me from the freaking girl-next-door is that the person in question has feelings for me and not her. So what worries me is that his feelings for me will change rather than than some lousy kisses. Feelings are unique - you can't just develop feelings for anyone, you know. To me, it's the inside that really matters.

I'm not trying to promote polygamy here (although i think it's a pretty cool idea. whahaha!)...but i just can't get it when ppl get all upset over something so small and common as a kiss (c'mon, the ang mos kiss each other in greeting and to say goodbye all the time!).

Isn't it far worse if u fell for someone else but did nothing about your feelings instead?

Where would that leave you?

An empty shell that merely follows the protocols of the rules of dating, that's what.

XxX,

audrey at 02:19

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