Monday, April 18, 2005

to love or not to love...that is the question.

Have you ever wondered, why do we love the people we love? They say love is blind...which i totally agree with...but has anyone said love is stupid?

Seriously. I really think love drives rationality out of the window. Totally. We all act like fools when it comes to love. The only time when we make proper, rational decisions is when we have one foot out of the door already.

Back to my question. Why do we love the people we love? Is it the combination of traits that we deem as desirable? Is it the looks? The money and power? Phermones? Or all? If we met someone else with a similar combination, why wouldn't we then jump ship?

Call me jaded, but i think we are all together with that supposedly significant other not because we really really really love them, but because of cognitive dissonance. We give so much (because of the initial infatuation and a million other reasons) in the beginning to make this relationship work. But in the end, can't get ourselves out of the relationship without admitting that we were stupid from the very start. Nobody like to admit to anyone, least of all to themselves, that they are/were/have been stupid. Trust me. It's really difficult to honestly admit to yourself that what you did was wrong and you've been making a total fool of yourself. Even when the truth slaps you in the face, you will still deny it. At least i know i do. So what can we do? Just carry on, i guess.

Maybe i don't know what's love all about..but until someone can convince me otherwise,

love = cognitive dissonance.

If love is not stupid, then we must be.

XxX,

audrey at 14:11

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